Hello, and welcome!

If you are reading this, congratulations! It means that you have finally decided to take the bull by the horns, so to speak, and go out there to find love. Because you know it won’t come finding you, despite what everyone keeps saying.

All jokes aside, living with a disability is pretty difficult, so expecting someone else to handle those challenges with you can seem like a big ask. The thing is though, it doesn’t need to be. With the right person; a person that really loves you for who you are disability aside, the disability won’t even come into the scenario in the first place.

She (or he) won’t see that you are in a wheelchair, or stumble over your words because of the learning disabilities you have. She won’t care about any of that – she just loves you for you.

You see, despite what you may have thought, it’s not just disabled people that sign up to these websites in the hope of finding love. Able-bodied people are on there too. I’ve dated a few, so I know this is the case. There are people out there that don’t care that you can’t walk up a flight of stairs, or have a condition that means wandering around for more than twenty minutes at a time is hard work.

If you’re on the fence about dating with your disability, maybe it’s time to hop off it? Maybe it is time to dip your toes into that dating pool, and see what weird and wonderful fishes are out there for you? How do you know you won’t have any luck with it if you have never given it a shot? How do you know no one will be able to see past your disability if you haven’t even tried? There’s a good chance you guys and girls are underestimating yourself, and you should probably stop.

If you’re at that stage in your life where hanging out with your friends isn’t so much fun, mostly because you’re the third wheel all the time, why not take the leap and try to find someone out there that could be your special someone? I know people say that love will find you when you least expect it, but at one point I was a 30-something year old man with learning disabilities AND pretty bad anxiety. I didn’t leave the house that often. I was going to have a hard time finding someone to date… I’m not gay so that’s my postman out the window.

It was desperation that first lead me to disabled dating online, I’ll be honest. I can admit that much now. I figured no one else was going to love me after years of relationship-failure, so I figured I’d look for someone that was in the same boat – with a disability too. It was by chance I came across an article on a disabled dating site, and after reading it, I joined up to (which is my favourite).

I’ve never looked back.

If you are ready for love, go out there and find it. More and more people are jumping on the disabled dating bandwagon every day… So why aren’t you?